When I decided it was time to write a new blog I sat down and drew up an entire plan. What I wanted to do, How I wanted to do it and more importantly Why I wanted to do it! For the majority of my existence I have hidden away, utterly embarrassed and ashamed of my appearance. Partly because of my own issues and partly because there were no positive images out there of women who looked like I did. Fabulous fat girls were invisible- to an extent they still are, but thankfully much less so. There were a number of influential women who helped me to shape a more positive vision of myself.
Tess is an American plus size model and founder of the #effyourbeautystandards movement. Tess was the very first plus size woman I saw wearing the clothes that I wanted to wear. Pretty tea dresses, sleeveless tops, short skirts and no shame. Tess consistently promotes messages of self love and positivity and most importantly loving your body! She taught me that sexiness is not just reserved for the svelte. Her attitude is one I have slowly started to embrace- I’m here, gorgeous as I am and if I can’t see that it’s because your standards of beauty are effed up.
I can safely say that Ducky is one of the main reasons I have chosen to write about sex. I first found out about Ducky on a trip to New York when I picked up her book “Sex with the lights on”. Since then I have been a huge fan of hers. She frequently writes and holds online tutorials all with instructions on how to improve your sex life. She is fun, energetic, enthusiastic and an unapologetic curvy cutie! She frequently shares links for plus size lingerie and is all about making big girls feel beautiful. From Ducky, I have learned the importance of open, honest communication when talking about sex and sexuality. If I could exude half of her sensuality and emulate her wonderful attitude I will be a sex education force to be reckoned with.
Jes Baker aka The Militant Baker
A post about radical fat femmes would not be complete without a mention of the inspirational Jes Baker. Jes runs the blog The Militant Baker- which preaches self love, body love, positive mental health and general kicking ass. Jes has done so very much it would be impossible to mention it all here. You will have to check out her blog to see all of her awesome accomplishments. What I can tell you though is the way that she inspires me. On her knees she has tattooed “My Life, My Rules” and that pretty much sums Jes up. Her take it or leave it attitude is incredible. She is a strong feminist chick who passes no apology for her opinions or her appearance and she takes no shit. She is equally honest about her struggles- which I think makes her a force to be reckoned with. Jes has inspired me so much I bit the bullet and joined her smash the scales campaign at the beginning of 2014- hence the first photo. It is quite possibly the scariest thing I have done because it was quite a vulnerable statement to make public but I am so, so glad that I did it because the response was astoundingly supportive and positive. Something I would have never known if I didn’t take part.
Now I know what you’re thinking- Rebelle that’s all fine and dandy talking about amazing women who live in the states but I live in Ireland where the culture is ever so different. Fear not my dear let me introduce you to….
Ms. Valentine is Ireland’s Queen of Curves. Not only has she written a book for the curvy girl but she has also set up her very own plus size model agency. She has done more for Irish plus size girls than anybody else. Vicki is also responsible for having plus size girls on regular TV fashion segments. The very first time I saw Vicki and her girls on TV I wanted to sing from the rooftops. Because of Vicki’s drive, ambition and brilliant vision a new generation of Irish women will grow up watching a representative selection of women on television. Little girls can watch a fashion section and not only see thin girls but they will also see curvy girls, instilling in them that their body is a good body too. This is a gift that the young women of Ireland will not even know they have received as they will just take it for granted that bigger bodies are meant to be seen and though they might not know it Vicki I certainly do. I can’t even begin to express how much I admire Vicki, she is endlessly in the media championing the cause of positive body image in Ireland and standing up to the bullies who size-shame and criticize. All of the ladies mentioned in this post have helped me see the beauty in myself and to accept my bigger body but it was Vicki that helped make it ok to be a kick ass fat chick living in Ireland.
Now that you have heard about the women that have inspired me, I am nervous and excited to announce that I will be posing nude for an artist in the near future. It would be pointless for me to sit behind a screen writing for you all encouraging you to love your bodies, love yourselves, embrace your sexuality, be brave, bold and beautiful just as you are, unless I was willing to do the same. I won’t lie, when the artists call came looking for a fuller figured model to pose nude, I hesitated, actually that is a lie I rejected and refused immediately. I mean me, naked, forever on canvas, my boobs hanging bra-less, unsupported, my belly uncovered, my rolls for all to see and my bum, oh lordy my bum not even close to a booty. Then I stopped and I thought, well if I’m not going to do it, who will. If I wan’t to live in a world full of people who unashamedly love themselves I need to start with myself.
I’m certain not everyone will like it. I’m positive that some people will wish they hadn’t seen it. Some will be rude, crude and unkind. But the simple fact of the matter is this, it’s my body, it has danced, laughed, sang, consoled friends, lay with lovers, endured pain, been pierced, tattooed, and endured a lifetime of hatred- it needs a little bit of a break from all that. If only one person looks at it and feels better about themselves, even if that person is me it will have been worth it. Hell I will forever be a piece of art, an artists muse for a moment and that really is something. If you still think it’s gross and disgusting and that fat women should be seen and not heard I have this to say to you.
I’m here, I’m a fat, fabulous, feminist- I will be seen and I will be heard & if you don’t like it you can kiss my FAT ass. If you do like it, then stand with me and let the body bashers and negative ninnys know we aren’t gonna take their shit anymore!!!
If you would like to find out more about the women featured in this blog post, then please click on their picture.
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Tess Munster https://www.facebook.com/TessMunster
Ducky Doolittle https://www.facebook.com/duckydoolittle
Jes Baker https://www.facebook.com/themilitantbaker
Vicki Valentine https://www.facebook.com/temptedsize16to28