Since doing my photo-shoot with Boudoir Girls I have had a huge amount of public and private comments from people telling me how much they admire my bravery and my body confidence. The most surprising part was not that people were making positive comments but what was surprising was the people in my life who did comment. I guess I kind of take for granted the “type” of people who I would assume are full of body confidence and it would have never even cross my mind that they might have issues with their own body. I am here to say that this needs to stop right now! Even if you are working on your body, there is no reason why you can’t love it for what it is right now and continue to love it as it changes.
Anyways that’s enough of my preaching. Instead of ranting on about how much I would love it if everyone got up in the morning and loved what they saw in the mirror, I will tell you the things I do to make me feel gorgeous!
Strike a pose!
Sure it sounds totally daft but posing in the mirror has done wonders for my self esteem. I’m not gonna lie, in the beginning it was a struggle. It would take me quite a while to find anything I liked and I mean anything! I hated every single aspect of myself. So I started small, I love my eyes, and I focused on them until I really loved them. Then I moved on to the rest of my face and eventually on to my whole body. Do I still have iffy days, sure, that’s totally normal. In the best of relationships you’re gonna have not so good days and that is exactly what you have with your body is a relationship. You gotta fill your relationship with love and positivity to get the best out of it. Nobody want’s a miserable relationship full of negativity, it’ll drag you down.
One of the perks of a relationship apart from undivided love, attention and cuddles is presents!! Uh huh you heard me, presents. Spoil yourself, just cause. Buy the things that make you happy. A body scrub, a lippie, a mug whatever makes you happy- if you can support a small business while doing it then all the happier. Spread the love around. It’s what I do and I’m not one bit ashamed of it. I buy myself nice things and it makes me feel better. I get cute new outfits or a lil head band and I am happy as a clam.
Put on some slap…. if that’s what you’re into.
I totally get that makeup isn’t for everyone and some people would rather do something else with their time than perfecting their winged liner, however I am not one of those people. I love my makeup, I really really do. Some people put on their makeup, just because, I paint my whole face. Sad but true, I see my mug as a canvas and I paint it accordingly. I change the colour of my brows, colour my lips, practice eyeliner shapes, lash on mascara and highlight my chipmunk cheeks cause it makes me so very happy. Once upon a time I was shamefully bad at applying makeup but you tube is a godsend. All the pretty tutorials. I also have to thank Urban Decay Limerick for a one day master class that helped me perfect the basics. Every little helps as the saying goes and if it makes you feel better then why the heck not.
Love your clothes.
I am the first to admit my colour palette when it comes to my clothing tends to be on the black side. It’s not because I’m trying to hide myself away or cover my lumps and bumps. I just really like black. Good for all occasions, formal, informal the works. That said I have started being a little braver in my choices as of late and I am liking seeing more of my body in my clothing. Not to mention this being the first ever summer I dared to bare my upper arms. Let me tell you this darlings, if you haven’t before you need to get those arms out. Guess what happens, nothing!! Ok that’s a lie, One you feel so much cooler and more comfortable and two once you’ve done it once or twice you will really start to wonder why your upper arms scared you so much in the first place. Being braver about your clothes will just make you feel better. Eff what others think, the should’s and should not’s of fashion. Here’s the only rule, Do you have a body? Put whatever clothes you like on it. Unless of course clothes aren’t for you in which case you rock that look like a motha!
Get Naked and Take Pictures!
Please don’t choke or laugh or snort. I can hear ya, y’know. “Who’d want to see me naked?” You do that’s who. I thought I loved my body unconditionally until it came time for me to have my naked photo shoot. It was then all the nerves kicked in. Oh but my back fat, my non-existent arse and the cellulite oh dear god the cellulite. Y’know what though it has been one of the greatest experiences of my life. I have never felt so brave and so beautiful and quite kick ass! I have to say a large portion of that is down to the fabulous Natalie @ Boudoir Girls who didn’t flutter an eyelid at my nude and semi nude self going this way between shots. Y’know what the pictures I have are not perfect and why should they be I’m not perfect. But they are stunningly beautiful and Natalie helped me see a side of myself I didn’t think I would ever see and for that I am eternally grateful. So yes if you get the chance you should get the pictures taken. Don’t wait until the whenever just do it! Do it for you and do it soon, you simply must.
Surround yourself with positive people!
It is so easy in this life to be surrounded by miserable people. People who are unhappy with themselves and therefore feel that you should feel the very same way. Sometimes these people are family or people that you absolutely cannot avoid but for the rest of them cut em loose. Time on this earth is short and precious don’t waste your time, effort, energy, positivity and brilliance on people who can’t or don’t appreciate the brilliant person you are. Whatever your age, gender, shape, size, colour, ability, creed or whatever you deserve to feel good about yourself.
So there you go, a list of some of the things I do to feel beautiful in all possible ways. I would love you to share some of your ideas for feeling gorgeous with me.
Photography by Boudoir Girls
Makeup by Colette Makeup Artist